So, I’ve been in love with my friend Juan for almost eleven years. Just recently, about a month ago, Juan told me that he’s been in love with me for the same amount of time, but too scared to say anything. My feelings are strong for him, as his are for me. Currently, I’m dating someone that I have been dating for two years, and I lost my virginity to him, and his to me. My feelings are equally strong for both of them. What should I do?
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I think for now you should be by yourself to figure out what you really want. You do not know so breaking up with one to be with another is not a good idea. Tell your present boyfriend you do not know what you want and you want time alone. Let him decide if he wants to wait or not. But do not string him along just because you do not know what you want. It is not fair to him. He has a right to know where he stands so he can move on with his life. Until you know for sure what you want you should not be with anyone. All that will do is confuse you more.
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on: 9th November 09
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tricky situation. you should communicate to your bf the situation and how you are feeling.
I think for now you should be by yourself to figure out what you really want. You do not know so breaking up with one to be with another is not a good idea. Tell your present boyfriend you do not know what you want and you want time alone. Let him decide if he wants to wait or not. But do not string him along just because you do not know what you want. It is not fair to him. He has a right to know where he stands so he can move on with his life. Until you know for sure what you want you should not be with anyone. All that will do is confuse you more.
sleep on it.. but if u keep thinking about something it means u want it so if ur thinkin about breakin up in the mornig do it! also u my only have feeling about him because u lost ur virginity to him so think about that? would u still love him if u were a virgin?
you need to really figure out who you care about more, who you would do anythign for, and who you could see yourself with for the rest of your life.
answer mine please
go get involved with life. See other people and what they can/will add to the enjoyment of your life
you have to really think about it and see who you really love. you may feel love for both of them but only one you can truly love..and it doesn’t matter if you lost your virginity to your boyfriend it doesn’t mean you have to be with him. also if you have been in love with Juan for so long and you never did anything about it it might just be friendly love .. this is a tough question that only your heart can answer…good luck