So, I’ve been in love with my friend Juan for almost eleven years. Just recently, about a month ago, Juan told me that he’s been in love with me for the same amount of time, but too scared to say anything. My feelings are strong for him, as his are for me. Currently, I’m dating someone that I have been dating for two years, and I lost my virginity to him, and his to me. My feelings are equally strong for both of them. What should I do?
I think for now you should be by yourself to figure out what you really want. You do not know so breaking up with one to be with another is not a good idea. Tell your present boyfriend you do not know what you want and you want time alone. Let him decide if he wants to wait or not. But do not string him along just because you do not know what you want. It is not fair to him. He has a right to know where he stands so he can move on with his life. Until you know for sure what you want you should not be with anyone. All that will do is confuse you more.
on: 9th November 09